Psychological Resilience
Self-compassion, a feeling of warm and strong empathy associated with the desire to help, is a state of being friendly to oneself, feeling and showing compassion towards oneself. Self-compassion brings with it the ability to regulate emotions. So; When we do this activity, being able to approach ourselves as we treat our friends affects our emotion regulation skills positively. The person has the difficulties of perception, naming, accepting and organizing both in the therapist chair and in the client's chair, thanks to self-compassion. For example; Think of a challenging event we went through. Consider the thought that comes to your mind after this event, and let's consider the emotions that thought aroused in you. Being able to interpret the meaning and message of these emotions can be painful at that moment. Because the emotion we have fed to the other person negatively affects our ability to interpret this. Because there we need to value our own needs and self first of all, instead of in front of us. This situation; Awareness, understanding, acceptance of emotions, the ability to accept impulsive behaviors, and the ability to act towards goals when negative emotions are experienced.
Conscious awareness; Being able to focus on the present and focus our attention without judgment. What am I living now? The goal is not to live with one hundred percent awareness at all times. However, it is to enjoy the happy and pleasant moments more and to manage the negative and stressful moments in the best way and to choose the healthiest reaction. While these negative, stressful moments in our lives continue, we call psychological resilience to maintain functionality in life. Psychological resilience is not to expect not to be affected by these events, to want not to be upset, to expect not to cry; to gain the ability to yawn. To live what life brings. Although innate traits can be protective, it is not enough for us to call a person durable or not durable. If you are resilient in an event, you may not be able to be in an event. For example, having a relationship with an adult that a child feels safe around growing up is a very protective factor. Because his lovable feeling makes it easier for him to develop stamina. However, it is not an innate feature. Resilience can also be developed with the new relationships it establishes.
Clinical Psychologist Saime Serpil Özgül